Setting My Rules

1 06 2013

So, with all the weirdness in my life, I decided it’s (way past) time to lay down some ground rules that all parts of my brain can adhere to, and maybe make life easier/better/less messed up (delete as applicable). Will I stick to them? I don’t know, but I really want to try. They are…

Stop boasting – Yeah, your sex life may be amazing, you may be able to do x, y, and z, but (try not to faint at this) people like you for who you are, you don’t need to impress them, and boasting annoys them at best.

Don’t make promises you can’t keep – To be honest, we haven’t been too bad on this, but it bears repeating.

Take your time – A lot of the time, you act on impulse. This is not a bad thing in itself, but when it’s uncertain who is calling the shots it can be. So, take a breath, gather yourself, then act. You know this works.

Express yourself – With a brain as active as yours, bottling it up is not a good thing. Try venting those bad thoughts in a story like way, may help get them gone.

Seek and show clarity – When you see the world differently, it pays to get clarity from others, as well as making sure people understand where you’re coming from.

Get hugs n cuddles only – Be honest, you have major intimacy issues (long ass story as to why) which means hugs and cuddles generally end up meaning sex (they always used to). Don’t put yourself in a situation where that line can be blurred. Enjoy the physical intimacy without crossing the line and you could get far more hugs n cuddles. That’s a win right there (yup, I like hugs n cuddles).

Say no – Don’t say it when you should do you. Time to stop either people pleasing or conflict avoidance (or being weak willed if we’re being mean), and start saying no. The important people will understand.

That’s all the rules I’ve come up with so far, feel free to pilfer if you find them useful, or add in any others you can think of 🙂



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